Early in my teens I started inquiring ‘Who am I?’. This quest has led me to develop CFIT Psychology, a transformational development model based on letting go of identities. I am speaking of thirty years of self-discovery, in-depth meditations, studies in India in ancient philosophies and Eastern Psychology followed by case studies, certification trainings and witnessing my clients.

I love walking in the woods on paths that no one else has walked upon. I do the same in my life. I decided instead of following a treated path, I trust my own intuition and my creative expression. Dance and art has led me to self-discovery and beyond. All the while, being very supported by mentors and teachers and taking perspectives of coaches and friends into account.

Taking the feeling that I don’t fit in, I decided to share my uniqueness as an inspiration to others. This is both an invitation for you to trust your own truth as well as support for deep trust in yourself, intimacy with your partner and the universe at large.

I look forward to supporting your unique journey and discovery.

Dr. Xian

What people say about Dr. Xian

Knowledgeable, fun, serene, present, connected, intuitive, spot-on, available, caring.

“Dr. Xian is powerful in her presence.”

Dr. Xian is a member of several professional organizations

  • ATP Association of Transpersonal Psychology
  • IEAT International Association of Expressive Art Therapy
  • IASD International Association of the Study of Dreams
  • ABMP Association of Bodyworkers and Massage Therapists
  • BDY/EYU Association of German and European Yoga Teachers
  • ICF International Coaching Federation

Dr. Xian has presented at the following conferences

SANDS Nondual Conference, CA
ACISTE American Center for the Integration of Spiritually Transformative Experiences Annual Conference, GA
IEATA International Expressive Arts Therapy Association International Conference, CA
IASD International Association of the Study of Dreams International Conference, OR
ATP Association of Transpersonal Psychology 50th Anniversary Conference, CA

Dr. Xian has facilitated workshops internationally

Hamburg, Germany
Cologne, Germany
Duesseldorf, Germany

Rishikesh, India
Amritapuri, India

Mount Shasta, CA
Palo Alto, CA
Berkeley, CA
Los Angeles, CA

Ashland, OR

Prescott, AZ

Xian Prem, Ph.D.
Mystic, Scholar, and triple certified Coach

Ph.D. in Psychology, M.A. in Transpersonal Psychology and B.A.s in Psychology and Business Administration.

Dr. Xian has additionally been trained and certified in the following areas:

  • Himalayan Yoga Tradition
  • Meditation and Interfaith
  • 5 Rhythms Movement Meditation
  • Clarity Breathwork
  • Pleiadian Lightwork
  • Strozzi Master Somatic Coaching (ICF approved)
  • Transformational Coaching (ICF approved)
  • Creative Expression
  • Children’s Daycare

Yes, it’s been a lifetime of learning added my personal mentoring and intense daily practices. You can find her presenting her expertise at international conferences.

My unique combination of life in Western and Eastern hemispheres, cosmic interests of beyond the personal, and research in transcendent experiences and gratitude have led me to bring transcendence and daily life, together in a unique offering of Kundalini awakening, wellbeing, and sexual healing.

My personal journey is of uncovering layers over layers of identified existence into true bliss and happiness. I believe that healthy intimate connections in partnership, friendship, and community as well as compassion towards clients can gift us vibrant energy, a healthy body, an awake mind, and a fulfilling life.

But Let’s talk about your gifts, dreams, and passions and how to manifest them!

How I think about intimacy

All my life people told me that my sexuality was not a fit. My desire for deep intimacy, not ejaculation focused did not match the cultural, social nor personal view of my partners.

After years of exploring a way of sexuality that suited my body and preferences through self-pleasuring, I wrote a manual for sacred intimacy based on Yogic principles.

Finally, I met teachers, who not only supported my view, but agreed that normal human sexuality is disgusting. Further, one mentor described that he views normal sex in a long-term relationship as more harming to the subtle energy system of a person than a one time rape. That got my attention.

How to deeply enter into new ways of lovemaking, instead of overlaying tantric sex on top of normal just for better orgasms, that’s a journey of discovery into the mysteries of the universe.

You don’t need to live up to what everyone else does. Indeed, most couples are not happy. There is more out there to discover about blissful encounters than what the media sells us.

I considered becoming a nun, but I found that awakening Kundalini life-force can be a shared journey (with or without sex).